Marriage is for grown folk

Married and Uncomfortable

Marriage is work. Marriage is not something we can walk into with a half heart or for our own self ambitions. We cant go into marriage without prayer and the full armor of God thinking that everything will work itself out. There will be uncomfortable times that will need some TLC. With so many women who are young and married or young and desiring to be married, guidance is needed. Even if you are in marriage and everything is smooth selling, I can tell you, there will be trials. Have you surrounded yourself with couples who have successful marriages and are going where you want to go?


Listen, I can sit and tell you so much. One thing I will tell you is by the time I had allowed God to speak to me about what marriage really is, my marriage had ended. Nevertheless, I am glad that I learned what I did learn. For years I have been around successful marriages, I have heard my pastors preach about what it takes to have a Godly marriage, but I still went into marriage for my own selfish reasons. I didnt understand that marriage was not forme but it was for the glory of God. I didnt understand that getting married was not going to take away all my problems. And so, when things got uncomfortable, I was ready to give up.


So Im here to let you know, marriage takes work and endurance. It is beautiful because it is a gift from God. So you can be happily married even in the midst of trials. I see it all the time. It's just about being a woman who girds herself in the truth of Gods word. 


1Peter 3:1- Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some donot obeythe word, they may be won without a word but by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 


Being married to an unbeliever is uncomfortable. But often times, I've wondered if I girded myself with this scripture and focused on becoming the woman God designed for me to be, could I have won my husband over? Im not sure. However, I have heard many stories where women have done this. Where their marriage was on the brink of divorce but they made a stance to be the wife God has called them to be and their husband's hearts were turned around by God. You may say, oh but I dont believe this is the man God told me to marry. Well, sorry to break to you, but its too late to think about what should have been thought about before you said I DO. If God has not told you to divorce, it's time to fight against the devil and the warfare he is trying to bring into your mind to make you give up on your husband. Run the Race!!!


1Peter 4:8 above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love cover's a multitude of sins.

No matter what, always check your love level for your husband.  If it is easy to give up, then the God kind of love is missing from your marriage. We may love someone, but there are different types of love. The one type that should never fade is agape love. That is the God kind of love that can stand the test of times even when things are uncomfortable. Try to think, How much do I love God. If you love God, then that should spill into marriage. 


Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted and forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

I know how uncomfortable it can be to forgive especially depending on the situation. But when we think back on all the things we have done, not just in marriage but also before, and think about how God has forgiven us, forgiveness can be a little bit easier. Forgiveness is constantly needed in marriage. 


God loves marriage, he created it. If God can run the whole world and create the whole world, giving everyone their own unique DNA, who are we to think he can't help us with marriage. He WANTS your marriage to be prosperous. He is waiting for you to seek him about your marriage. Even in the good times. Don't stop interceding about your marriage and your husband. Dont give up on what God has graced you to be in.