I knew that once I was single again, I was not going to do things the way I used to. I guess that's why they say, when you know better, you do better. I knew I no longer wanted to sacrifice my body just for pleasure. Why should I? Everyone does not deserve the right to be able to be intimate with me in that way. It took me a long time to get this. It took a while for me understand the value of me and the precious piece of me that only belongs to God until he sends the one who deserves it and is going to treat it with care.
We are valuable. Our bodies are valuable. But for some reason so many of us dont see anything wrong with devaluing ourselves by giving a piece of ourselves to someone who doesnt deserve us or doesnt belong to us.
1 Corinthians 6:18 says, Avoid sexual immorality! Every sin that a person can do is committed outside the body, except those who engage in sexual immorality commit sin against their own bodies.
We devalue ourselves when we so willingly give our bodies to someone who is not suppose to have it. We are God's masterpiece. So we can walk with confidence knowing that it's ok to make a man work for what he wants. Now I dont mean the 3 month rule or waiting a year to see how he does. I mean holding ourselves until he has personally spoken to God about you as his girlfriend and God has called him to be your husband.
There is nothing wrong with saving yourself or even if you have already been active, you can start over! In this time of holding myself I have been really learning how valuable I am. It's not always easy. But when I think about my relationship with God, what he is calling me to do and the man he wants to bring into my life, I dont want to allow my flesh to overrule me living for Christ.
That is one thing I find that helps with walking in purity. Knowing who you are doing it for. If we do it just to show a man we are strong and of value, we will fail. But when we do it for God and God alone, he keeps us.
I spent a great deal of my life having sex before marriage and it did nothing but get me into a bunch of bad relationships and it kept me from hearing from God clearly. From what I see, it doesnt work out too well for anyone else I know too often either. If you have to sacrifice your body or your relationship with God just to keep someone or to show them you love them, he's not the one.
Roman 12:1 So, brothers and sisters, because of God’s mercies, I encourage you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice that is holy and pleasing to God. This is your appropriate priestly service.
I encourage you to spend time in Gods word, keep your body as a temple to God. Jesus paid a price for you. Make your boyfriend work for it by seeking God before he can even get that close to you. It will all be worth it in the end because YOU are worth it.