Single Doesnt Mean Alone
I know a lot of us dont like to be alone or feel lonely. Some may be ok with being alone sometimes as long as the lonely feeling does not come up. There are many women who feel like if they are single, that means that they are alone. I was in this place before my divorce. I felt on numerous occasions that when everything was said and done, I was going to be alone. It even went further into the fear of me thinking, "Oh my God, I'll be alone and miserable while he goes to be happy with someone else." This terrified me. I was afraid of how much it would hurt to see him with someone else, while I go home......alone.
This is what Satan wants. See, Satan is very strategic in what he does. He uses others to take us down in our walk with GOD. He finds that right person to come when your most vulnerable to give you exactly what you don't need. This is why ladies, we have to stay connected to the vine (Jesus)
John 15:5 “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.
With Jesus, we are able to discern when satan is trying to send a counterfeit into our lives. We can distinguish when something isn't right.
Get this, Just because you are single doesnt mean you have to be alone. Alone time is good because we all have to learn how to love ourselves when no one is around to do it. But it's ok to find people to be around. Especially during those times when you are vulnerable. That's when Satan tries to attack you.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down, one can help them up.
Find people who will do things with you that are positive and fun. Hang out at your church during activities, visit family members you dont get to see that often. Find people who will help you in your time of loneliness, people who will speak life into you.
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Dont forsake alone time with yourself. In those times try spending time
hearing from God. Read your word. Pray. You are never alone with God. Watch a movie and have popcorn and ice cream in bed. Read a good book. Get to know yourself. Just because you are single and alone, doesnt mean you have to be lonely. What is it that you have been saying you been wanting to try or what is the purpose GOD has given you? Why not step out on that and take steps to pursue it?
I remember right before I got a divorce, I was extremely broken and sad for about a week. So much, I cried every day. I couldn't stand the thought of being by myself. I had a friend who I reconnected with after a while. She was my back bone for those days. She called me every single day and stayed on the phone with me for hours at a time. She encouraged me, she poured into me every single day. When I was talking to her I would watch sermons on you tube. I just remember watching one sermon that encouraged me so much. It was called A place of separation by Precilla Shirer. I just remember all the sadness I was feeling just went away.
But even after that, my friend still stayed close by so I wouldn't relapse. As time went on, I quickly realized there was no need for me to feel lonely. I had family, friends, and goals to pursue. Most importantly, I had alone time with God. So feeling lonely was no longer an option. Now had I not taken steps to connect with God and positive people, who knows where I would be if I had let my vulnerability take over me.
Just because you are single, doesnt mean you have to be alone. Just because you are alone doesnt mean you are lonely. If you feel like this, take inventory of people you can connect with and places you can go, spend time with God. He is with you where ever you go. Joshua 1:9 I’ve commanded you to be brave and strong, haven’t I? Don’t be alarmed or terrified, because the LORD your God is with you wherever you go."