So often I hear about people who think marriage is not important. There are many people who think marriage is just a piece of paper. I have heard it mostly from men but you may have heard it from women too. Ladies I encourage you to never let anyone take the value out of marriage. It is not marriage that ruins a couples bond. It is two people who dont belong together and then get married that ruins the marriage bond.
Last year, I had the pleasure of taking time out to seek God and he began to show me the beauty and purpose of marriage. Marriage was created to show glory to God. Woman was created so that man does not have to be alone. Genesis 2:18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." The right way to step into marriage is for the purpose of God. We as women have to go into marriage with the mindset of being proper suitable and fit for a man and he for us. We are to step into marriage as his helper, his ride or die, his ace-boon-coon, or whatever you want to call it.
I had to realize in my own life that marriage is not used to fix anything. Marriage is not for show for selfish reasons. A lot of us women these days walk into marriage for the love of the man. We think, 'if he really loves me he'll marry me.' Love comes from God. Love comes from within. Love is really solidified the most AFTER marriage, but that is so you can give it unconditionally. It's not about the love you can receive, it's about the love you give. (marriage is not about us) However you cant give love unconditionally if inner self-love is not established before marriage. If we marry for love alone, everytime you dont feel loved, it's going to cause issues. But if we establish love with God first, we can give love without conditions.
Think about the first marriage. Now when I read it, it doesnt sound like Adam and eve got to know each other before marriage. They didn't set up a table in the garden and have a candle light dinner date with small talk. He didn't know she was going to change the course of humanity by giving in to the temptation of the devil. Adam just knew this woman came from God. They had to learn to love each other afterwards. But because they were made in Gods image, they had self love. They loved their creator first. Adam spent time, fulfilling assignments before eve. So when Eve came, he knew how to be a good husband. Did your significant other learn how to lead first?
We cant step into marriage just for someone to make us happy or because we have a baby by that person, or because we dont want other people to continue seeing us 'shack up.' God created marriage to mirror the relationship Jesus Christ has with his people. Ephesians 5:21-26 and submit to each other out of respect for Christ. For example, wives should submit to their husbands as if to the Lord. A husband is the head of his wife like Christ is head of the church, that is, the savior of the body. So wives submit to their husbands in everything like the church submits to Christ. As for husbands, love your wives just like Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. He did this to make her holy by washing her in a bath of water with the word.
So the same relationship Jesus has with his people, is what marriage should resemble between a husband and a wife. Marriage has to be done for the glory of God, It has to be done to win people over to christ. When it's done for the right reasons, it will be beautiful. There will still be problems because no one is perfect. But because you stepped into it with the right mindset, God will teach you how to be married the right way. He will surround you with people who can counsel and encourage you. Everything else, the love, the joy, the peace, you won't have to look for it, you will enter with it and it will be there.
Study Gods word on marriage. Study Gods word on being a wife. Hebrews 4:12 because God’s word is living, active, and sharper than any two-edged sword. It penetrates to the point that it separates the soul from the spirit and the joints from the marrow. It’s able to judge the heart’s thoughts and intentions.
So when you read the bible, it will change your thought process on marriage (on anything).
When I got married, I didn't study Gods word. I didn't know what I was stepping into. I didn't know the value of the responsibility of being a wife as it relates to the bible. So I went in for my own self desires and ambitions. Its wasn't done to give God glory, so it didn't give God glory. I encourage young women to have a standard, let that standard be the word of God. If the marriage does not look like it is going to meet that standard, then it's not being done right.
Marriage can be beautiful, you can have a successful thriving marriage. Marriage IS beautiful. Do it for the glory of God, and he will make sure it is blessed. 💖